Beware of the Signals You’re Giving
Flirting is one of the best, and in the same time, one of the most dangerous things. Know how to differentiate a friendly flirt from a sexual one. If you don’t want anything serious with the man in case, if you just want to meet new people, make sure you give out clear signals, so that he doesn’t misunderstand you in interpreting your flirting signals.

Beware of your words and if you don’t know what to say, better keep silence than say something wrong. And, more of all, don’t just get up and leave! (?!)

Well, imagine yourself something like this (actually, the following has really happened): A man who was a Russian immigrant, with a Philosophy Doctor degree, in spite of this couldn’t find a good job for him, so in the meantime he worked as a cab driver. During his speed date with a woman, she had the worst idea of all to ask him where he worked, and after hearing his answer, she had an even worse idea that that one to get up and go to sit at the bar. It was a clear insult and it was a very wrong thing to do in the circumstances. Even if you find out that the people you have set a date with are not right for you, respect them and make them understand this, they are human beings just as you are!

Dressing Rules
Before wearing any kind of outfit, ask yourself two simple questions: “Would my mother wear this?” and “Would my daughter wear this?”. If the answers are positive, do NOT put it on. The same comes if you have doubts of whether what you’re wearing doesn’t make you look ridiculous-once you have doubts, they probably are based upon something.

These are some rules of the dress code for a speed date:

1. Be very careful in picking up the right outfit for you. If you over dress, you will for sure feel ridiculous and uncomfortable during all your date. This isn’t what you want, is it? Don’t fall into extremes, like ball dresses or sporty pants, better choose a cocktail dress or some stylish smart-casual jeans combined with something alike.
2. Wear clothes that fit you-say no to smaller sizes, that squeeze you like a fish in a tin, it’s bad for your health, and say no to larger sizes too, they will make you look like a sail ship.
3. Now, the shoes. Of course, every normal woman would tend to wear the highest heels she has in order to look the sexiest of all. It’s quite well if you’re taking a cab or take your own car, but think twice before wearing such shoes if you’re taking public transport or, even worse, if you’ll have to walk on feet for a long distance. In these situations, better take some comfortable shoes. After all, you’re going to a date, think of how much you will enjoy it if all you will do is think about the way your feet hurt.
4. The best way to feel sexy is to wear sexy underwear. It’s as simple as that and it’s quite efficient too.
5. Your makeup should be as natural as possible-it should stress all your good parts and not the contrary. Besides, it should be adequate for the occasion and for the time of the day. One of the worst mistakes would be coming to the date with a neck and a face both different in colors. Remember that your aim is to make him think your beauty is natural and not achieved.

Be Adequate
If the place where you have the date is a sophisticated restaurant, with high quality service and the best sorts of food and drinks, make sure you are one with this kind of environment. That is, dress up appropriately for the occasion, look at your best and behave yourself at your best too. If you have problems with dressing for this kind of occasions, click here to see details and advices, and have some guiding for the dressing code.

Be Positive
Positive people always attract everyone for positive energy brings only positive one in turn. So if you want to make a first and good impression, don’t even think of being angry or sad-a positive attitude will do everything for you.

Don’t Give Too Much Personal Information
One of the best, safest, fastest and most fun methods of meeting singles is speed dating. You can keep it that way as long as you don’t give too many personal details, that is your telephone number, last name, email address and so on. Just make sure you leave a sign in front of his nickname in your Fast Impressions folder and if he does the same thing with you, it means you both have an interest in each other and, thus, you will be able to meet again.

Be Yourself
People who pretend to be someone they’re not, who play certain roles as if they were on a theatre scene are not liked by any society. Just be yourself and be proud of who you are, otherwise it means you have some problems with your self-confidence, and you’ll have to solve them before going on. There is a lot of information about it, a lot of books and different courses.

Replace The Question “What Do You Do?” with “What Do You Enjoy Doing?”
Usually the question of “What do you do for a living?” spoils all, a thing related both for women and men (men, in this situation, generally think you want to check how rich they are). Besides, not everyone likes the work he’s doing and not everyone’s proud of it. Instead of this question, why not ask, “What do you enjoy doing?”

Be Yourself
Nobody likes people who pretend to be someone they’re not in reality. Leave playing different parts and roles for yourself and just be yourself, the way you are. Be content with who you are, otherwise you might have some points to work upon.

Be Adequate
If the place where you invite her is a sophisticated restaurant, with high quality service and the best sorts of food and drinks, make sure you are one with this kind of environment. That is, dress up appropriately for the occasion, look at your best and behave yourself at your best too.

Give Compliments, but Don’t Exaggerate
Giving too many compliments will spoil all the magic, so before exaggerating with that, take care of saying the right words at the right time. (That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t say compliments at all.)

Be Positive
Positive people always attract everyone for positive energy brings only positive one in turn. So if you want to make a first and good impression don’t even think of being angry or sad-a positive attitude will do everything for you.

Don’t Be a “Space Invader”
There is such a notion as “space invasion” – it’s when one gets too close to the person near him and violates this person’s own space. Some people don’t mind it, others – in contrary – get really angry at such a turn of the events. So, if you don’t know too many things about the woman you have a date with, think twice before touching her. However, a touch of the hands or over her arms won’t do much harm.

Take Care about the Conversation, If You Want to Get a Second Date
If the first date is unsuccessful, don’t wait for a second one. In order for a first date not to be the last one, make sure the conversation you have with her isn’t only about you. If you only talk about yourself and don’t even ask the poor woman in front of you about her, all your further attempts will fail.

For a long time it was stated that when you make someone understand that you like him/her, that person will automatically like you in turn. Well, it was recently discovered that this rule of reciprocal attraction needs to be rectified a little bit for romantic relationships.

The statistics claim that the more you show your romantic desires towards all the people you like, the more they tend to reject you. (Could the reason be the fact that in these cases you look too desperate and obsessed?)

And vice versa, you aren’t usually rejected when you see no other potential partners around you besides the one you desire. (Now, at least this is what calms one down.)

What has been at the base of novels and art through all the times if not the physical chemistry and romance? That’s why social psychologists and all kinds of investigators have spent their time in searching for answers and observing the speed-daters as it was a lot harder observing the romantic attraction at the beginning of a relationship.

Paul W.Eastwick, a graduate student in psychology and the main author of this study, says, ”Unselective potential romantic partners are much less successful than selective partners who show that only you are someone really special for them. Our study consists of letting our speed-daters put all this in practice with a time of only 4 minutes for every date.”

“It’s something astonishing, the way a speed-dater is able to find out in just four minutes to what point the other person likes him and even to what point the speed-dater is unique and special for that person,” Finkel said. “Now this is something we can’t find the answer to for it’s beyond our imagination.”

The experiment which was meant to uncover the mystery of the importance of the first minutes of physical attraction was set up as following: 156 participants (students) had four-minute speed dates with 9-13 persons of the opposite sex. After each date they had to complete a questionnaire where they had to mention if they were attracted physically to the persons of the opposite sex, if they liked them and to what degree.

All the participants have entered the study Web site in the following and they have mentioned which of the persons they speed-dated they would like to meet with again. The ones whose “yeses” were mutual were given each other’s contacts.

Finkel concluded that, “A romantic relationship differs of a friendship by the fact that unlike in a friendship, the “all-loving” persons may seem desperate in a romantic relationship.”

Eastwick’s addition to this was, “That is, when you want to make someone be attracted to you, you will lose if you play the unselective person.”

The final conclusion of this experiment is as it follows from the previously said, “Reciprocity in romantic relationships doesn’t need the same criteria as reciprocity in friendships. It is only acquired when the potential partner is made to understand his unique and special role in one’s life.”