Time has become a social problem nowadays, you often hear someone saying, “I don’t have time for this and that”. Unfortunately, this running out of time is being reflected on our personal life too. One of the solutions to this problem is “speed dating” – a new kind of dating, of which the following article will inform you.

Considering the high rate of divorces among the population and the joint between love and marriage, why reckon dating to be sound and problem less?

Let me introduce you the notion of speed dating, the one that allows one to meet up to ten new people in one single evening.

Each date lasts only seven minutes, that’s why speed dating is so different from other typical meetings of new people. Another major difference between them is that, unlike the meeting of singles in bars, for example, people who use speed dating know perfectly well their objective.

The Game Itself

So what does this game of speed dating consist of? It’s very simple. All the participants (all of them should be single) gather in a certain place, it could be a café or something like that. They pair up and begin their dates. The subjects of their conversations exclude their careers and home addresses.

These conversations last only seven minutes each and, at the end of them, the couples are paired differently and the next seven-minutes-dates begin.

After every date finishes, all the speed daters answer on a card to the question whether they would like to meet their date again. And if this interest is reciprocal, the organizers give the telephone numbers to the daters.

Some Words About the Origin of Speed Dating

For the first time, speed dating was organized by Rabbi Yaacov Deyo in 1999, it being based on a Jewish tradition meant to prevent the Jewish singles from marrying people of other faiths except theirs. It consisted of gatherings of young Jewish people. Next, this kind of tradition spread all over the globe.

Speed dating easily substitutes the blind dates and bar scenes, it is much more interesting and resentful.

What Are the Results of Speed Dating?

The results of these speed dates were absolutely positive for approximately half of the speed daters. Some people might say that it’s pretty boring to repeat the same quick conversations several times during the same evening, but it is considered that there also is another reason responsible for the success of the date, that is physical attraction or chemistry, you might call it.

One disadvantage of this new form of matchmaking is that seven minutes is quite a short time to get to know someone. Sometimes, people whom we reject after these seven minutes of speed dating could easily be right for us if we knew them better.

And vice versa-you might have been impressed and enraptured of someone you’ve dated for seven minutes, but after a longer time of knowing each other you realize that this Mr. or Ms.Right is not really as it seems.

In spite of this, speed dating is becoming more and more popular nowadays, achieving new and new points. Could this be a new revolution?

One of the main and common reasons of divorces nowadays, whose rate are, by the way, too increased over the last fifteen years and are not decreasing yet, is and remains the failure of two people in working out their differences.

Having gone through a divorce surely implies concerns and fears about beginning another relationship. It’s, actually, natural for negative experiences to bring such consequences and be inhibiting. So, if you are too cautious and prudent about dating someone new, remember that you’re not alone and it’s a normal state of mind after what you’ve been through. There’s nothing wrong in it.

But the solution wouldn’t be not dating at all or taking refuge at a monastery. Thus, you will only do yourself harm, because later you will realize you crave for human contact. Indeed, you should have a rest from dating and reflect about your past experience and your mistakes in it, but you shouldn’t exaggerate either.

Here are some tips and advices for you to follow after having suffered a divorce and wanting to be successful in further dating. Reading these guidelines won’t make you immediately find someone to get married to, but it will improve your dating experience.

1. A date doesn’t necessarily imply a marriage.

Usually, after sharing for years everything they have with a person, people get used to the marriage outlook and they hardly let it go once they’re separated from their ex-partner. That’s why when you begin to date someone else, you might feel that you will marry that person some day. A date doesn’t necessarily imply a marriage, so before falling victim to this way of thinking, just remember this. That’s why, while dating, experience new things and simply have fun, don’t feel too many obligations!

2. Give yourself enough time to breathe.

Don’t move on too quickly once your marriage is over. Give yourself time to breathe and to emotionally and mentally digest your divorce. If your divorce has just been finalized it doesn’t mean you should be in the clubs that same night, looking for a new life partner. Just go out with your friends, have some fun, but don’t start searching for “that someone”.

Every person has its own specific length of time to wait before beginning a new relationship, after having gone through a divorce. So you must feel yourself the very precise moment when you are emotionally ready to date with a new person and when you are capable of handling a new relationship with someone.

3. Be sincere and open.

You might feel tempted to hide details and circumstances of your divorce from your future dates, but you shouldn’t. Don’t lie about it, just tell them what you feel easy when talking about. They should know that you have been through a marriage before, that you have divorced and that you’re moving on now. That doesn’t mean, however, that you should give out all the unnecessary details to your date or pour out your soul to someone you don’t really know yet. Who knows? Maybe you’ll find someone who has had a similar experience, someone you have a lot of common with.

4. Don’t fall into old patterns.

When you start a new date, try not to make the same old mistakes you have made with your ex. Retaining old patterns won’t lead to any good, it will only cause you problems and harm. Remember who you really are, not who you used to be with your ex-partner and show yourself to your present or future date, start a new life. In case you don’t, you will only move on from a divorce to another.

5. Leave your baggage aside.

If your ex has caused you problems and resentment, that doesn’t mean every person of the opposite sex is like him/her. Don’t pour out your anger and deceivements from your ex-partner on your dates, it will only make things worse and you will never have a healthy relationship. So just forget about the divorce and leave all your anger aside. Your date isn’t guilty for whatever has happened to you, you should start anew.

Five Indications that You Aren’t Ready to Date:

Do you have doubts in whether you have moved too fast to date after your divorce and do you think you need more time for yourself? Read these indications that you aren’t ready to date yet:

1. You still have pictures of your ex-spouse in your bedroom, and you still don’t feel like taking them from there.
2. When dating someone else, you always take your ex-partner with you.
3. It’s very hard for you to go on a date, because every time you do it, you feel emotionally weak after it.
4. Even if you’re divorced, you feel like cheating on your ex when you date someone else.
5. You try to compare your present date’s good and bad qualities with your ex-partner’s.

Teenage and college life implies a very important problem for teens and students, a problem that leads to the second most important decision in one’s life-choosing a life partner to marry. This dating and marriage process is probably on the first place for everyone, that’s why it is very important for teens and college students to pay more attention to it.

These are some questions concerning dating that we have received:

What do you think about teen dating? What is the most appropriate age for it? What is the way things with dating should happen? Should dating progress into something else? Should we kiss? Some people consider one shouldn’t date before going to college, others believe the contrary. What is your opinion about it?

These questions are very good ones that torture many Christian teenagers once they start getting acknowledged with dating.

But the answers to them are very hard to find, because teenagers are almost never prepared to decide important things in their lives when it comes to this. Besides, if we take a look at humanity’s history and compare our time with the past, we will come to the conclusion that our ancestors had their marriages arranged for them by somebody else in their early or late teen years. Unlike them, we are the only ones to choose whom to marry and we do it later and later with the passing of centuries.

We should admit that Bible doesn’t always answer directly all these questions. Still, it does give advice for young people, advice they should take in count when beginning dating, when choosing the one to date and when having to face different problems with it.

Be not deceived: Evil companionships corrupt good morals, (1 Corinthians 15:33).

Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers: for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what portion hath a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement hath a temple of God with idols? For we are a temple of the living God; even as God said, “I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people,” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16).

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. Or know ye not that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which ye have from God? And ye are not your own; for ye were bought with a price: glorify God therefore in your body, (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).

These passages should teach us very important things, like: we should always avoid bad company that corrupts our good morals when coming to date someone(1 Corinthians 15:33);it is vital for us not to become “unequally yoked” with an unbeliever, which is also very important when it comes for us to choose whom to date (2 Corinthians 6:14-16); and finally, but not of the least importance, we must make all that’s in our power to “flee from fornication” (1 Corinthians 6:18).

Online dating makes it too easy to fall in love with a picture and a profile that’s all about self-advertising. Six ways to tell if a relationship is worth the time and money to pursue.

Instructions:

Step 1
First, you MUST determine if you’re dealing with a real person. Ask them personal (but not intimate) questions. Get the person’s phone number if it’s a domestic agency. Foreign matchmaking sites are different: the legitimate ones DO NOT give out contact information to protect the ladies and your privacy. If your questions are answered, chances are it’s a real person seeking love.

Step 2
Ask the person to send more photos. Sexy pictures are a big draw in online dating, especially foreign women. But is it her, or a paid model? Better yet, chat with the person online if foreign, or call them if within your country. Foreign online dating agencies should have “video validation” that certifies a woman’s identity.

Step 3
Use a reliable search engine or social networking to learn more about the person in industrialized countries. In some countries with limited bandwidth and pricey Internet, you’ll have to rely on a good agency to “validate” a woman for you.